learning how to live is very difficult, to understand how to react and to act. Not because of protocol and good manners, but to reach your goals.
As a child you learn that crying often works, as a teenager you learn that chores and good grades go the distance. Yet these Concepts often blur when you reach your adult years.
As an adult, you have to learn about calmity,anger and negotiation, and how to use these three factors to influence others. It's a tricky mixture, just like alchemy.
I often misuse them and the second factor becomes the dominant behavior.
That's why I envy calm and serene people, who aren't tempermentally crazy like i am.