What women want

I have witnessed a lot of friends suffering in their relationships, in addition, a lot of the girls don't want to speak out or say to their partners what they really need in a relationship. They say that men should know on their own, which I believe is very impractical.

I have debated within me whether I should write this post, however I believe that although a relationship is not something I seek, that this post will help others and maybe end some man-woman quarrel.

Please note dear reader that this post expresses my personal opinion and some women might require different things. That being said, I would also like to point out that this is a post that describes the desires of women who fall for men, not girls for boys(interpret it as you wish). In addition, this post is compiled from situations I have witnessed, conversations or general observations.

However, dear reader, I must set the context first, which is the type of woman you're dealing with.

This fair lady is surprisingly old fashioned and modern as well, I know this is confusing, but most women who are independent, but still retain virtue as their compass, will likely be both traditional and nontraditional at the same time. That same woman is an intellectual, who's farthest from being a feather head as angels to hell. She will not feign ignorance, nor will she stifle her voice, but she will bow before a convincing argument, for although she has fallen prisoner to love, she still retains logic as her savior. She has within her boundless amounts of kindness that she will gladly share with those she deems worthy. She is not a trusting person, yet it takes but one situation to prove to her that you are trust worthy. She will not seek you out nor vie for your affection as she is a woman of great pride, but she will respond to your attempts with grace and eloquence. So, without further ado my dear reader, I reveal to you what women really want,

Taking action; our fair lady reveres a man who will take action when needed. Those types of men who let situations play out fearing their involvement don't impress her. However, she likes a man who knows when to take charge of the situation, turning end results in his favor.
Intellect; she adores a man who can think for himself, with whom she can have passionate debates and interesting conversations. He is one who keeps up with the world's events, reads and forms opinions. She wouldn't care for him if he fakes his intellect or if he's too arrogant about it. His confidence speaks oodles of it and so he doesn't need to boast and show off.

Gestures; she doesn't like the grand expensive ones that objectify women, but rather the small personal ones that show that you care. For instance, bringing her soup when she's sick, trying to make her laugh when she's upset, etc... These small things show that you care for her well being.
Freedom; she needs her man to acknowledge her Independence and refrain from suffocating her with fear and jealousy. However, she also expects his support and attention when needed. She needs to know that when all else fails, her man will not. She needs him to be there for her even if she doesn't ask. Always remember, just because she might not need you all the time, doesn't mean that she doesn't appreciate your existence in her life.

Sharing; she expects that you will share with her everything; the trouble, happiness, responsibility, etc... Neither one of you will leave the other to handle any one of life's transitions alone.

Other women; she acknowledges the lust within you, but she will not tolerate you being unfaithful or insensitive. She will not condone you lustfully looking at others in her presence. If the love between you cease(since love sometimes die) and you find yourself seeking others, then you should go to her first, tell her of your drifting and she will agree to part ways, after all she's a reasonable woman.

Children; her existence is not connected to motherhood. She acknowledges her Independence as a person from the gift of life God had bestowed upon her. She might want to be a mother or she might not, don't make assumptions(or think she's a breeding machine), ask her.

Romance; she doesn't want honeyed words or sensitive men. Your romance will show through the way you act, so don't waste your time with public displays of affection. However, a nice dinner(involving actual food, yes, she eats) every now and then will be appreciated. And remember, always complement her shoes.

Humor; she doesn't expect you to be the class clown, but a nice clean joke is a nice way to break the ice. She hates a man who pouts and who fails to enjoy his time. She hates a man who's always in a bad mood and who can't take things lightly. She wants someone who will relieve her stress, not increase it.

Generalization; it might be one of men's greatest sins against women. Each woman is unique and different, to truly love her is to get to know her without making assumptions. General rules will not apply to our fair lady, so make no mistakes, if you don't know, don't assume, find out.

I believe that I have covered the basics, so remember, always be kind, attentive, assertive and gentle. Don't ever raise your voice to her or try to hurt her with your words, she will never forgive you for it. Treat her the way you would like her to treat you and for the love of God, get to know her.